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Hi

Was wondering if anyone could help, although I am not actually a sufferer of Diabetes my husband is. He recently got diagnosed with Type I and to tell you the truth I don't know who he is anymore. He thinks he can carry on as if nothing has changed. His Doctor is not helpful and the support team are not supporting him at all.

All he seems to want to do is sleep, he can't get levels correct, and can be very argumentative and lazy. I am finding it very hard to live with him as I don't know what type of mood he is going to be in, I cannot even begin to imagine what he must be going through but I do feel he is not helping himself with what he eats (craves chocolate all the time). He goes without his Green Insulin pen for weeks on end and says he forgets to take the orange one. If he does take it its before food and he has been told to take it with food. He has also been smoking heavily, and doesn't seem to care what anyone else says.

I am at my wits end, and I don't know what to do anymore, can anyone help?

Thank you

Hi, Im quite new to Dafne. I have been diabetic since I was 14 and I am now 24. At the start of being diagnosed I was sleeping a lot and also my sugars were up and down like a yo yo, therefore you have the mood swings and the sugar cravings when low. Its only now that I have started to look after myself more and eat more healthily. At the start you kind of feel everyone is watching what you eat and telling you what to do, like you don't have control but now I see that everyone should eat like a diabetic and I feel a lot better for it.
You should be getting support from the Gp. Sometimes it takes a kick up the bum so to speak, or he will just come to terms with it and see that its not that bad. Just keep with it Megan

Hi, Im quite new to Dafne. I have been diabetic since I was 14 and I am now 24. At the start of being diagnosed I was sleeping a lot and also my sugars were up and down like a yo yo, therefore you have the mood swings and the sugar cravings when low. Its only now that I have started to look after myself more and eat more healthily. At the start you kind of feel everyone is watching what you eat and telling you what to do, like you don't have control but now I see that everyone should eat like a diabetic and I feel a lot better for it.
You should be getting support from the Gp. Sometimes it takes a kick up the bum so to speak, or he will just come to terms with it and see that its not that bad. Just keep with it Megan

Hi JamBenJak,

Everything that you say sounds so typical of the feelings one experiences from time to time as a diabetic. Difficult indeed to live with or understand. Sometimes we truly are not aware of the suffering we are causing during the mood swings.

I have been Type 1 for 30 years and struggle to get anywhere near correct levels, my daughter Type 1 for 16 years and she suffers worse than me, we try but it's difficult.

I don't have any answers for you but your husband needs to be made aware that it is his choice, he has a condition which isn't going to go away and he needs to choose how he wants to deal with it.

When diagnosed, my specialist said "you are going to inject yourself twice a day for the rest of your life", I told him "no way" so he said "ok then die".

I wonder what age your husband is and whether you have any children? He and you both need help and support, it seems as if he is struggling to accept the fact that he will need to change but it does get easier. Cant tell you that the mood swings will go though, depression is never far away.

Please go to your diabetic team at the hospital and ask for their help, GP's are often too busy.

Stick in there, you are obviously desperate to keep things together otherwise you wouldn't come on here asking for help. It's not an easy ride but has to be worth it.

Good luck.

Vic.